Ever since I was a kid, I was very inquisitive; and I realised and also read somewhere that asking questions is a good thing. We should nurture our children with this trait of asking. In our initial years on this earth, we ask a lot of questions, most of which seem silly to us now but it’s those questions we asked that make us feel that we were silly at that moment. Had we kept mum and accepted anything as it is, we’d be silly at the present to the rest of the world.
This inquisitive habit changes over time for almost all of us, in quantity and quality. When we start school, we start keeping quiet and not ask questions. Later on, we may start asking the wrong questions, or sometimes in a wrong way. During school, many times but not always, our educational structure can be held responsible. We’re taught in a way that makes us remember and not learn things. However, I was lucky enough to have brilliant and supporting teachers that always encouraged me to ask more questions which I guess has really helped me a lot in my life so far.
Questions can be asked in various ways: What? How? Why? When? Where? Really? These words can really help you.
But as the title of the post suggests, for deciding on something, only one of them is enough. Why?
Being an Indian, there’re a lot of things around me which I see that lack only this one word. and not just India, it’s the fact with many other countries. You’re told something, you understand it. You’re told something else, you don’t get it, so you ask for more explanation; What? The word you should be saying is Why?
You’re told to choose non-medical. You choose it. You’re asked to choose commerce. You choose it. You never ask why? Why don’t you ask? Haven’t you got preferences or choices or taste? If you ask why and you’re told “There’s a lot of scope in ”, just ask them Why? Why do they say that there’s a good future? Demand an explanation.
Know the things you’re doing. You should have a reason to do it. Starting from 22, girls are asked to marry off. I ask why? Why should they marry at 22? Why shouldn’t they build up a career and earn money and live their life before you marry them off? Don’t be happy if you’re a guy. Guys also go through this, just that at a later age. I’m 22 and when I first visited my relatives after having joined, many of them asked the same thing. “How old are you?”. “I’m 22”. “Oh, then you’ve got time to marry”. Why don’t they have anything other than to think of than marriage!! I guess most of the problems of Indian society can be removed by using just this one word.
Regarding decisions too, as the post’s title suggests, this word is useful. You’re confused between a task A and a task B, just iterate over both of them. “Why should I choose A over B?” List down the reasons and then ask why should you choose B over A. After writing down the reasons, go through both of the lists. Keep the top 3 (or 5/more if you have the capability to think and expend your mental strength) and strike off the rest. Now just ask yourself why should things A1, A2 and A3 matter more than B1, B2 and B3. It might look simple while writing or reading but it can drain your energy a lot. Just keep using this word recursively and you’ll have a decision in your hand finally 😃
Finally, it’s not just this one word that can help you every time, you should try using other inquisitive words also. Keep asking 😃